Autism and the Role of the Mother (Part 1)

Mother matters most. Especially for an autistic child. She is the primary support system for her child’s development and well-being. It is essential for a mother to understand what autism is, what difficulties she can expect, and how she can best support not only her child but her entire family. When I say “mother,” I include the father and the whole family, as the role extends beyond just the mother.

To make understanding autism more straightforward, it helps to answer these important questions:

1. What is autism?
2. How can I recognize if my child may have autism?
3. What are my child’s strengths and challenges?
4. How can I help my autistic child?
5. How can I handle my child’s mind and emotions?
6. How can I manage communication difficulties?
7. How can I establish predictable daily routines?

1. What is Autism?

Autism is a complex neurological and developmental disorder. It affects families around the world, regardless of caste, race, wealth, or education. Autism is no one’s fault—it occurs randomly. This condition affects communication, behavior, and social interactions.

It’s called a “spectrum” disorder because it affects individuals in varying degrees. Autism is not a disease, but a disorder. It means that something in normal functioning is disrupted. Unlike diseases, autism cannot be cured; it is a lifelong condition.

2. How to Know if Your Child May Have Autism

Signs that may indicate autism include delayed speech, lack of eye contact, repetitive behaviors, and difficulty understanding social cues. Autistic children often think in images rather than language. They may seem more attached to objects than to people and may appear detached from those around them. Autism is diagnosed through behavioral observations, as there is no specific lab test for it.

3. Strengths and Challenges of an Autistic Child

An autistic child may have unique strengths, such as being very detail-oriented or having a high degree of expertise in certain areas. However, they may also face significant challenges, such as sensory sensitivities or difficulty understanding social situations.

4. How Can a Mother Help Her Autistic Child?

First and foremost, accept that your child is autistic. Do not hide it—acknowledge and embrace it. “Jaisa hai, waisa hai, mera hai pyara hai” (As they are, they are mine, and I love them) is the best attitude. Mothers need to act in their child’s best interest, understanding and responding to their special needs while seeking help from those experienced in autism care.

5. How to Handle the Child’s Mind and Emotions

Both the child and the mother are at risk of emotional strain. Autistic children often struggle to express their feelings or control their emotions. Mothers need to create a stable and loving environment where the child feels safe. With the right support, behavioral and psychiatric issues can be minimized or avoided.

6. How to Manage Communication Difficulties

Focus on your child’s strengths and build upon them. Find out what they are good at and enjoy doing. Encourage communication through picture books, mobile apps, and other tools that help strengthen listening and verbal skills. Practice facial expressions and body language to aid in non-verbal communication.

7. Developing Predictable Daily Schedules

Children with autism benefit from a structured routine. Having a fixed daily schedule gives them a sense of security and reduces anxiety. However, they also need to learn how to handle changes in routine. Gradual changes, visual schedules, and slower transitions can help them cope with disruptions.

– Dr. Anil Mokashi (Pediatrician)
MBBS, MD, DCH, FIAP, PhD
(Child Growth and Development)